Are we born with confidence? How easy would that have been! Truth be told, I didn't have much confidence when I was growing up. I was chubby and made fun of which led me to a lack of self-esteem. I was always kind of good at art, but never encouraged to pursue it. I wanted to be a Nun, a Nurse or a Teacher when I grew up, and without any doubt, a Mom. Funny story, I played a Nun for my dad's 40th birthday, so, in my mind, mission accomplished! He would say to me that he didn't want me to be a nun because he wanted grandchildren someday, and, I wanted to be a Mom one day, too! So, on his Surprise 40th Birthday, we borrowed a Nun Habit and I walked down the stairs to the party and said, "Good evening Father" mission accomplished!
I did become a mom the same year I turned 21 and when you become a mom, you become a nurse as you take care of your child's every need, physically and emotionally. And, I did become a Teacher, because as a mom you are your child's first teacher. You teach them from the moment they are born. You teach them what it feels to be loved with your caring words and gentle embrace. You teach them how to feel by letting them express their fears, their pain, their joy and their hope for fulfilling their dreams. You teach them how to walk, to talk, to share, to care, to be a friend, to be responsible, to be respectful, to have good manners, what good behavior means, what it means to never give up, to be kind, to have healthy habits and to be proud of who they are. YOU are their first teacher, their first love, their role model on how to be a person who can do what they set their mind to, if they want something to earn it, to go after it and, especially to be the best they can be as they live their life. YOU are their everything, so, give it your all.
We gather on Sundays for dinner, play board games, laugh and talk about our week. I say it every time, that we are Blessed and I am grateful for our family. Just the other day my son said, we are not the 'norm' there are so many broken families and an awful lot of dysfunction in the world today. True. And, while on the outside things look like they are always pretty good, on the inside, there are struggles and disappointments, in every person, in every family and in every day circumstances.
This is another reason I feel so passionate about teaching our children about the important messages that our characters teach. I've always had a heart for teaching and to become a mom, to build a family. We have always done the best we knew how with what we had. Believe me, we did without, we struggled , BUT, we made the choice to persevere and to put our family first the best we could. As there are so many things we are able to provide for our children, there are so many things that we are not able to provide for them. The best you can give your children is a strong foundation to learn with, to grow up and to be a confident person as they grow and walk through their own life.
Tips To Teach Self-Esteem In Children
A friend once asked me for a piece of advice, this is what I shared: "Choose your battles" Don't harp on the negative or the things you wish your children would or could do, but, praise them for the beautiful, unique and special person that they are. And, do NOT compare your child to another child, your family to another family, your home to another home. When you focus on the good, the positive in life, your entire world will change. Plus, when you have confidence and self-esteem, you're not afraid to venture on into the next chapter of life. Build on a strong foundation and learn, grow and become.
Married with children since 1981. Love working with children and sharing the Characters of Character.